一个女人,是她的男人所反射出来的倒影

六月 24th, 2013
by VJ

这篇文章在网络上留传已有一阵子了。之前本来想分享,但中文的翻译我觉得不够好且感觉没有翻的原汁原味。这篇中文我觉得翻的不错,分享给各位。

A sweet letter from Brat Pitt to his beloved wife,Angelina Jolie :

*My wife got sick. She was constantly nervous because of problems at work, personal life, her failures and problems with children. She has lost 30 pounds and weighted about 90 pounds in her 35 years. She got very skinny, and was constantly crying. She was not a happy woman. She had suffered from continuing headaches, heart pain and jammed nerves in her back and ribs. She did not sleep well, falling asleep only in the morning and got tired very quickly during the day. Our relationship was on the verge of break up. Her beauty was leaving her somewhere, she had bags under her eyes, she was poking her head, and stopped taking care of herself. She refused to shoot the films and rejected any role. I lost hope and thought that we’ll get divorced soon…

But then I decided to act on it.

After all I’ve got the most beautiful woman on the earth. She is the ideal of more than half of men and women on earth, and I was the one allowed to fall asleep next to her and to hug her shoulders. I began to pepper her with flowers, kisses and complements. I surprised her and pleased every minute. I gave her lots of gifts and lived just for her. I spoke in public only about her. I incorporated all themes in her direction. I praised her in front of her own and our mutual friends.

You won’t believe, but she has blossomed.

She became even better than before. She gained weight, was no longer nervous and she loved me even more than ever. I had no clue that she CAN love that much.

And then I realized one thing: “"The woman is the reflection of her man""

Brad Pitt *

 

爱的秘密-布莱德 彼特

布莱德 彼特 ,谈到他的太太 安洁莉娜.裘莉

我的太太生病了,
她因为工作问题,
私人问题,
她的失败和孩子们的问题持续地感到紧张。

她的体重减轻了三十磅(约十五公斤),
在35岁的时候她的体重是90磅(约45公斤)。
她变得非常瘦,而且常常哭泣。

她不是一个快乐的女人。
她因为持续性的头痛,心脏痛,
还有她背部与肋骨受挤压的神经而受苦,
她睡不好,只能在早上睡着而且在白天很快就感到疲倦。
我们的关系在破裂的边缘。

她的美丽离开她去了某个地方,
她的眼睛下面有眼袋,
她常常戳自己的头,
并且不再照顾自己的健康和外表。
她拒绝拍摄电影也拒绝任何角色。

我失去了希望而且认为我们很快便会离婚……
但我决定要采取行动。
毕竟我拥有地球上最美丽的女人。
她是地球上超过一半的男人和女人心中的向往,
而我是那个被允许睡在她身边和拥抱她肩膀的人。
我开始用花朵,
亲吻和赞美来宠爱她,
我在每一分钟让她开心和感到惊喜,
我送给她很多礼物并且只为她而活。
我在公开的场合只谈到她,

我将所有的主题都导引到她的方向,
我在她自己和我们共有的朋友面前赞美她。

你无法相信,
但是她开始绽放,
她变得甚至比以前更好。
她的体重增加,不再感到紧张而且她比以前更爱我了。
我以前完全没有想到她能够爱得那么多。

然后我体认到了一件事:
“一个女人,是她的男人所反射出来的倒影。"
— 布莱德.彼特 

 

这篇文章让我回忆起在我还没离开之前那个教会时,我常常会遇到的事。我周遭的教会朋友常常会因为他/她认为自已的另一半等级太低、情绪度太低或是能力不佳而决定要离开对方。当时我就告诉他/她,人是你之前挑的,现在你认为你‘境界提升’了,就嫌对方。然后要自已的另一半一定要花钱去做‘改善及提升’自已,否则就分手(隔离)。

但事实是,有问题的人跟本就是你自已。更扯的是,不久前我还看到这个教会在台北的负责人写了一篇文章说,一个人离婚三次很正常,所以阿汤哥离三次婚没什么。这种歪理看了真另人吐血。

当你的另一半有问题时,解决问题的方法绝不是要她去接受心灵治疗,或是嫌她是麻烦来源者而隔离她,或甚至是嫌她情绪度太低怕被她影响到而隔离她。这些都是小我及自私的做法。自样的你永远也到达不了灵性的高层次境界。

发生在你的周遭的一切事物都反映着你内在的世界。只要处理你自已,外在环境就会跟着改变了。

一直到现在,只要有人上门要我处理他们另一半的问题时,我都会告诉他们,有问题的是你而不是对方。对方只是你心理层面那个问题的投射。所以跟本不须要处理对方,处理你就可以了。而很神奇的是,我光处理当事人,问题就会解决。

其实这个概念我之前在‘镜的世界’这篇文章中有提过。后来我在接触‘零极限’这本书时,发现它也是用这种概念在发挥神奇的效果。这个概念就是,所有你遇到的问题都是你自已所吸引来的。所以问题唯一的解决方法就是清理你自已,而不是去处理你有问题的那个人、宠物或事物。

 ‘负完全责任意味着接纳所有事物﹣﹣甚至那些进入你生命中的人,以及他们的问题,因为他们的问题就是你的问题。他们就在你的生命中,所以如果你对你自已的生命负完全责任,那么你也要全然负责他们经歴的一切’﹣﹣零极限

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